Celebrating Christmas

Given our goal of making Christmas less superficial and material, more spiritual and meaningful, my wife and I have spent a fair amount of time mulling over how to accomplish this. It isn’t enough merely to avoid shopping on Buy Nothing Day, or to limit the money spent on gifts. There needs to be positive steps, rather than merely negative ones (Christmas commission rather than merely Christmas omission). What do you do to replace the malls and credit card charges?

We find that it starts with emphasizing activities. There are many community events available this time of year which can help make the season memorable. In theory, I’m less reluctant to spend money on events than gifts: while the event itself is more transient than a “thing,” the impact can last far longer than most material gifts. In practice, there are so many free events celebrating Christmas that we rarely attend events which charge.

For us, one of the greatest aspects of the Christmas experience is music. While I’m no fan of most of the “Christmas contemporary” genre, I find great joy in traditional Christmas music. There is little we look forward to more than the Christmas Carol Service of Salt Lake’s Cathedral of the Madeleine. The traditional Catholic music is so ethereal and reverential, and the Cathedral is such a gorgeous setting. We find ourselves awed every time. If you are interested, call early for (free) tickets.

They don’t seem to have any specifically Christmas programs, but I’ve attended a couple services at Salt Lake City’s Calvary Baptist Church in December. I really enjoy Gospel music, and the services are always jubilant. It’s a nice change of perspective.

There are virtually nonstop concerts around Temple Square for your enjoyment throughout December.

Last year we found that the Utah Cultural Celebration Center had a dozen or so Christmas concerts in December, from musical traditions around the world. My favorite was the Peruvian group—Andean music is entrancing.

Another event at the Cultural Celebration Center is the Trees of Diversity exhibit. Years ago, I went to the Festival of Trees and was terribly disappointed. Most of the trees were nothing more than marketing promotions: The Jazz had donated a tree with ornaments of players and logos; KSL’s tree was covered with news anchors, logos, and topped with a news chopper; Michael McLean had a tree adorned with CD cases from his latest albums. Do those displays say anything meaningful about Christmas? The Trees of Diversity exhibit, on the other hand, was beautiful. Each tree was decorated with handcrafted ornaments from a given traditional culture. We could see what each group valued about Christmas, and we learned a little something about their culture.

Convention says that the gift-giving tradition on Christmas is meant to represent God’s gift to the world of His Son, Jesus Christ. But a crucial aspect of that gift is that the gift of Jesus and the Atonement was given to a world entirely undeserving, and yet one in desperate need of that gift. In the same spirit, I think we symbolize the Christmas gift so much more by giving to those in need. So many lack material or spiritual sustenance. I can’t imagine a better gift to our Father than to memorialize his Son through service. Do we or our families need the new fashions, gadgets, or gizmos which typically make up Christmas? Or could our resources meet more crucial needs in others?

Giving generously to charity is certainly worthwhile. The Salvation Army and (for us Mormons) the LDS humanitarian services are a couple of the most prominent options. Several local organizations are sponsoring the Angel Tree program in Utah, which is a good way to connect specific individuals/families with donors, making it a more personal act of service. The Feminist Mormon Housewives team has created a Kiva Account to help raise funds for third-world people through the concept of microcredit, pioneered by Grameen Bank. One year we worked with my extended family to raise the funds to send an African student to college in concert with Signs of Hope international.

We have increasingly been looking to find situations in which we can contribute time as well as money. Last year a family in our neighborhood with three children under eight-years-old made a couple dozen Christmas cards, and then spent a day in a nursing home delivering cards, singing songs, and talking with the residents. For a recent Christmas, we arranged for our extended family to purchase materials for and then together assemble newborn “kits” for the Teddy Bear Den to distribute to needy single mothers. All of the young children in the family eagerly participated in filling the kits, thrilled to know that they were helping “babies.”

We still do some traditional gift-giving. I am intrigued by the idea of celebrating Christmas entirely without exchanging gifts, partly because I realize that celebrating Buy Nothing Day accomplishes nothing if you just spend the money a few days later. While we haven’t gone that far yet, we try to make as many of our gifts as possible. Over the last several years, we’ve had a lot of fun learning how to make wind-chimes, lamps, bean-bag chairs, homebound journals, art, etc. It isn’t necessarily cheaper than purchased gifts, but they are more personal.

When we must buy gifts (or the supplies for gifts), we try to shop locally owned businesses as much as possible. One good option in SLC is Earth Goods General Store, which honored Buy Nothing Day by remaining closed Friday, and which specializes in environmentally friendly items.

For a few more days, you have the option of a viewing the Old World Christmas Market at Gallivan Plaza, where you can buy hand crafted gifts from local artisans.

No doubt, it takes more work to make time for the various events and the service activities in which we want to participate. It can be hard to resist the allure of stuff. But we’ve found that our holiday is strangely less stressful and more rich as we focus on relationships and experiences.

What do you do to make your Christmas season meaningful? What events go on in your community, here or elsewhere, which you look forward to?

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7 Responses to “Celebrating Christmas”

  1. Jenni Says:

    I’m giving Kiva certificates to some of my family this year as well as a Kiva calendar. I love gifts that give on multiple levels and teach something in the process.

    Also, with the economy in a slump, I think it’s important to invest in our own community. My goal is to buy as local as possible for my remaining gifts.

  2. alliegator Says:

    I’m debating kiva gift certificates- also heifer international.

    The main gifts we’re giving are homemade, but I can’t get into them here, since my fam might read about it!

  3. Jennifer Says:

    My family is full of musicians, so December is always a busy month. This year we will be in 13 performances for various school, community, chamber, & other ensembles. Plus we are joint choir directors in the ward and 2 kids are in the ward choir. The performances are volunteer except for my husband’s paid jobs (he has 4 during December).

    Sometimes I sigh and wonder what the season would be like if we were not musicians, but I usually conclude that Christmas w/o music would be really sad, and I’d much rather be a part of it than not.

    An unusual tradition we have is to celebrate our British heritage. My ancestors & my husband’s all came from the UK (with a few distant obscure exceptions) and my husband went on a mission to northern England. So for the 23rd and 24th we always have traditional English dinners (a lovely roast, yorkshire pudding, brussel sprouts, trifle, cawl, or whatever else we can devise, and Christmas crackers to pop) and listen to recordings of UK performers (Cambridge Singers, various brass groups, etc)… the kids look forward to this every year and we hope they will remember it in future decades.

    Trying to limit the time/energy/money on shopping is tough but essential for me. I find that online shopping takes a lot of the stress out of it. Driving around, navigating through harried customers & clerks whilst listening to the worst of Pop & Muzak Christmas Hits really ruins it IMO.

  4. alliegator Says:

    I’m always torn between the ease of online shopping and wanting to buy locally. I usually end up doing a little of both.

    One gift left to buy, two small things to sew, and a few other things left to assemble and we’re done, and can enjoy the season.

  5. alliegator Says:

    (That made it sound like I’m not enjoying my gift-picking-out. I can hardly wait to give some of them, that it’s hard keeping them secret…)

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